September 13, 2024
If you want to know how to improve orgasms and maybe even have better orgasms, then this is the blog for you. Today, we are talking a little bit about sex, a little bit about orgasms, and how you can bring your partner into the whole picture to help make intimacy more enjoyable for both of you.
After a client asked a question about orgasms and the pelvic floor I started doing a little bit of research to see what studies were finding so I could bring it back to all of you. The big take away I found is that there is a direct correlation between your ability to orgasm and your pelvic floor strength.
When you orgasm, your entire pelvic floor contracts and then fully relaxes. An orgasm is one of the best things that a woman can do for herself because you get that tightening and contraction, and then you get that full relaxation. The way the pelvic floor works is by contracting and relaxing, just like any muscle in the body.
How Muscles Work
If you want to get a strong bicep, you grab a weight and do curls. You contract the muscle up and then relax it down, doing sets and reps. This helps to bring in blood flow, activate the muscle, and improve strength. The pelvic floor works the same way. Orgasm is one way to do that, but there are other ways to strengthen the pelvic floor.
If you have difficulty achieving orgasm, or maybe the strength of your orgasm has changed over time, or your general ability to become aroused has changed, these can be common as women age and head towards perimenopause and menopause. Issues like reduced lubrication, arousal, strength of orgasm, or even pain or discomfort with orgasm can be related to pelvic floor health.
Activating Your Pelvic Floor
Understanding how to activate and get a stronger pelvic floor is key. Yes, kegel exercises can have a place, but many women don’t notice much difference. There are four ways to activate your pelvic floor to bring in blood flow and get it stronger:
To get all the fibers of the pelvic floor engaging, you have to be able to activate it in all these ways.
Exercises for a Stronger Pelvic Floor
The exercises we teach at My Core Floor are great for bringing in blood flow and activating that pelvic floor. A strong pelvic floor helps support your internal organs, improves sexual function, arousal, and even lubrication.
Working with Superficial Pelvic Floor Muscles
Improving orgasms isn’t just about strengthening the deeper pelvic floor muscles but also engaging the superficial pelvic floor muscles. Tight adductor muscles can shut down the superficial pelvic floor. Tight muscles are weak muscles, so we need to ensure they can contract and relax properly.
Soft Tissue Work and Partner Involvement
To improve pelvic floor function and sexual pleasure, soft tissue work is crucial. Foam rolling the adductor, self-massage, or partner-assisted massage can improve blood flow and muscle relaxation. Your partner can help with massage work on the groin, which can be a productive part of foreplay.
Practical Tips for Massage
Partner Techniques for Pelvic Floor Massage
Partners can also help with superficial massage around the vaginal opening. Using an index finger, partners can gently work around the lower part of the vaginal opening which will bring in blood flow and improve muscle relaxation. Deeper pelvic massage can also be taught to partners to help with pelvic floor relaxation but I always recommend consulting with a pelvic therapist on technique. If you have questions you can contact us at My Core Floor for more specific technique guidance.
Tools and Self-Massage
Wands or dilators are another tool that can be used for self-massage. These tools help reach spots that are difficult to access on your own. Regular massage and exercises will keep your pelvic floor in prime shape, improving overall sexual pleasure and health.
Summary
To improve orgasm and sexual pleasure:
Bringing in blood flow, ensuring proper muscle function, and involving your partner can significantly enhance your sexual health and experience. If you have any questions or need further information, feel free to reach out.
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